Family play a vital role in human society. Family is the best arrangement for bringing up children to be matured. During an ideal family dinner meal, caring parents are present with their children and discuss the days events and children discuss about what happened at school. A family is a heaven of safety and security Some see marriage as a milestone accomplished over the course of their life, and once achieved, giving them the feeling of being “complete”. To others, marriage is what makes their relationship “official” in a way and is what keeps them monogamous to one another. Where a big party, wedding cake, and wedding bands are what make a couple no longer available to anyone else but their spouse, the definition of marriage in better term is a “legal” or “formal” recognised union of a man.
Today’s family is changing not for better however under the influence of the western style individualism and the stress of economic problems. Divorce is becoming increasingly common many children are escaping from abusive homes, spousal violence, child abuse and teenage rebellion. Some blame the family crisis on the entry of women into the workplace whilst other feels it’s the moral breakdown. The secret and source of marriage happiness is in the Bible, a book inspired by God himself, beneficial for teaching, reproving and for setting things straight 2 Timothy 3:16 “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness”. Therefore, we should all consider how bible can help us set things straight when handling the stresses facing life challenges and problems facing family today.
Do you respect your spouse?”, “Do you ever think about divorce?”, and “What is your secret for sustaining your marriage? Ephisians 3:13-15 “ For this reason I kneel before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth derives its name. Rather than giving up and ending the marriage, many couples could save their marriage by trying to work through the problems that arise. Many people do not realize how much hard work has to be put into a marriage for it to be successful. Communication is an essential factor in working through problems in a marriage. Marriage is like constructing a building, it requires careful preparation. Before foundation must be laid, land must be acquired and plans drawn up Luke 14:28 “Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won’t you first sit down and estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it?” Constructing a successful marriage needs to consider its cost, Proverb18:22“ He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favour from the Lord”. 1 Corithians 7:28 “But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this”.
A Wholehearted commitment is requiring a vital factor in maintaining a marriage and living up to commitment requires maturity. To construct a building is expensive hence, caring for its long term maintenance is more costly. Getting married seems challenging enough hence, consideration needs to be given to the maintenance of the marital relationship Deuteronomy 23:21 “If you make a vow to the Lord your God, do not be slow to pay it, for the Lord your God will certainly demand it of you and you will be guilty of sin”, Ecclesiastes 5:4,5 “ When you make a vow to God, do not delay to fulfill it. He has no pleasure in fools; fulfill your vow. It is better not to make a vow than to make one and not fulfill it”.
Consider the one who inspire the bible he is the originator of the marriage arrangement God himself is therefore your bible let it be a guide to your marriage and do not dismiss the possibility that the bible can help to make families happy, it’s a great comforter, and a reassurance. Have a taste of it and found that the lord is good Genesis 2:18-25.
